人生要當心與九種人打交道，因爲社會上有九種人，
第一種人是嘴巴講得很好聽，心裏另外一套，可能暗中對你不好，口蜜腹劍型的。看到這種人，知道他很厲害，嘴巴裡一套，但是背後要捅我的，你就微笑傾聽，心中念解結咒。
第二種，看到喜歡吹牛拍馬的人，不與他爲敵，不要去諷刺他，否則他會講你壞話，你要心中念心經。
第三種，碰到一些尖酸刻薄之人，只要保持距離，看到他過來就遠遠的，保持一段距離。
第四種，碰到挑撥是非的人怎麼辦？謹言慎行，今天他跟你講話，你就聽他講，不要講話。
第五，碰到雄才大略之人怎麼辦？這個人一開口“我要在國際上怎樣怎樣”，你就好好學習他的優點，不要學他的缺點，虛心學習。
第六，碰到翻臉不認人的人怎麼辦？慈悲忍辱，心裏想“這個人真可憐，翻臉比翻書還快，這個人和動物一樣，有肉吃就這樣，沒肉吃就咬人了……阿彌陀佛”
第七，如果碰到憤世嫉俗的人，罵這個社會，罵這人那人，對誰都不好，要用平等心，他說別人不好，你心中就想“其實人都很好，他是誤判，人都是一樣的，我們都應該平等像兄弟姐妹一樣……”他說他的，你心中說你的，孫子兵法中這是“你打你的我打我的”。
第八，如果碰到敬業的人快樂的人，用什麼心和他交往呢？用喜捨心。他開心，你比他更開心；他快樂，你比他更快樂，他對工作認真，你就表揚他，當你們嘴巴口吐蓮花誇獎別人的時候，護法神在上面都會哈哈大笑。他告訴你一件事情，“我告訴你……”開心得不得了。就像有一個人和我說：“我的媳婦這麼多年生不出孩子，學了心靈法門生出孩子了！”臺長說：“這麼好啊，開心啊。”
第九，躊躇滿志之人，這種人不講話、很難過，好像有苦說不出，又有自己很多遠大理想，懷才不遇的感覺，對這種人，儘量用捨心去勸導他、幫助他，用悲愍心來對治，這樣才能得到菩薩的智慧。
在人間不僅要學佛，還要學會做人，就是太虛大師所說“人成即佛成”
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Dharma Convention in Macau, China
14th February 2016
HOW TO DEAL WITH THESE NINE TYPES OF PEOPLE IN OUR SOCIETY?
Be cautious when dealing with the nine types of people in our society.
First, there is a type of people who tend to say nice things in front of you but in fact think differently. They may think badly of you in secret, having honey on their lips and poison in their heart. When you encounter them, you know that they are very plausible. Their words may sound friendly and genuine, but they will probably stab you in the back. You should just smile and listen to them, while reciting the Mantra to Untie Karmic Knots in your heart.
Second, when you meet people who like boasting about themselves and who make flattering remarks, you should not be hostile towards them or being sarcastic, otherwise they will talk about you behind your back. In this case, you should recite the Heart Sutra in your heart.
Third, you should avoid people with a mean streak. When you see them coming over to you, walk away and keep your distance.
Fourth, what should you do if you meet people who spread rumours and slander, and look for arguments? Be discreet in word and action. If they talk to you today, you should only listen, but not comment.
Fifth, what should you do if you meet people who have great talent and bold vision? This type of person always says, ‘I must achieve this or that on an international scale.’ You should learn from their strengths but filter out their weaknesses and learn humbly and modestly.
Sixth, what should you do if you meet people who easily fall out with someone after an argument? Be kind and tolerant. You should think, ‘I feel sorry for this person. This person is quick to be angry. They behave like an animal, tame if there is meat to eat and becoming vicious if there is no meat. Amitabha.’
Seventh, there are people who are disdainful and cynical about the world. They are prone to blaming society and others and treat everyone badly. You should see them as equals. When they are complaining about someone, you should think, ‘Actually everyone is a good person; they are just making the wrong judgements. All people are the same; we are all equal, like brothers and sisters.’ While they are the ones talking, internally you are telling yourself something different. This is, ‘You fight in your way and we fight in ours,’ as mentioned in the Chinese military treatise The Art of War.
Eighth, if you meet someone who is hardworking and content, how should you interact with them? With a heart that is willing and generous. When they are happy, you are even happier; when they are joyful, you are more joyful than they are. If they work hard, you should praise them. When the compliments that you give are like lotuses coming out of your mouths, the Dharma protectors above you will laugh joyfully. These people will tell you something – ‘I’m going to tell you about . . .’ – and feel very happy. This is as if someone tells the Master, ‘My wife hasn’t been pregnant for many years, but now she is because she has been practising the Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door!’ The Master would say, ‘That’s great. I’m happy for you.’
Ninth, there are people who are complacent and very proud of their achievements. They do not talk much as if they are going through some sort of unspeakable suffering. They also hold great ideals but cannot find the best way to put their talents into practice. To deal with them, you should try to give them advice or help them, and treat them with compassion. In this way, you can attain the wisdom of Bodhisattvas.
While practising Buddhism in the secular world, you should also learn how to conduct yourself as a moral person. This concept is described by Venerable Master Taixu: ‘By perfecting our own humanity, we attain Buddhahood’.
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