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Excerpt from Master Jun Hong Lu’s Public Talk in Paris, France
1 October 2017
Three ways to avoid being angry
When someone in your family is angry, the first thing you should do is learn to stay away. For many people, their first reaction is to talk back to their wives or husbands and then get into a heated exchange with each other. In fact, just like if a house is on fire, the very first thing you should do is to flee the scene. You can find a way to put out the fire afterwards. Thus, staying away is a good approach.
The second approach is diversion of attention. When a family member is having a fit of anger, you can either change the subject or take the spouse out on a shopping trip.
Thirdly, learn to resolve the conflicts. When you get scolding from the other party, you shouldn't retaliate. Instead, you should find a friend and sit down for a talk. There is no smoke without fire. There must be some reason why the wife loses her temper or the husband is unhappy.
Understanding the working of karma helps elevate a person’s state of mind. View someone's wrath against you as an opportunity to make you a better person. It helps you identify your weaknesses. In this way, you'll be able to rectify your shortcomings and learn to control your emotions. Whoever can control their emotions is already a winner.
The second approach is diversion of attention. When a family member is having a fit of anger, you can either change the subject or take the spouse out on a shopping trip.
Thirdly, learn to resolve the conflicts. When you get scolding from the other party, you shouldn't retaliate. Instead, you should find a friend and sit down for a talk. There is no smoke without fire. There must be some reason why the wife loses her temper or the husband is unhappy.
Understanding the working of karma helps elevate a person’s state of mind. View someone's wrath against you as an opportunity to make you a better person. It helps you identify your weaknesses. In this way, you'll be able to rectify your shortcomings and learn to control your emotions. Whoever can control their emotions is already a winner.
摘自2017年10月1日 法國 巴黎
避免生氣的三種方法
當家裡人生氣的時候，首先要學會避開。很多人，當自己的太太或先生發脾氣的時候，首先是頂撞，相互你一句我一句。實際上當房子着火的時候，首先是要離開火場，再想辦法來滅火。所以躲避是很好的一個方法。
第二，轉移。當自己的家人生氣的時候，轉移話題，或者帶着先生、帶着太太出去買東西。
第三，要學會化解。當別人罵你的時候，不要去和他對罵。要坐下來，找朋友談談。知道一定有根有源，今天太太發脾氣，一定有她的道理；今天先生不開心，一定有他的道理。
理解因果，學會升華，把別人對你的生氣當作是幫你在找毛病，這是增上緣。好好地改毛病，學會控制自己的情緒。誰能控制好自己的情緒，這個人已經是一個贏家了。
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